• In the past, marriage was a ticket to stability. Now, girls can earn their own money, buy their own land, and chase their dreams without waiting for a ring.
  • Today’s girl is educated, ambitious, and independent. She wants more than just to be called someone’s wife. 

Once upon a time, marriage was seen as the ultimate goal for most women. However, today, things are changing.

More and more young women, especially in Kenya, are openly saying they do not want to get married and it is not because they do not believe in love. It is because the world has changed, and so have their dreams.

Today’s girl is educated, ambitious, and independent. She wants more than just to be called someone’s wife. She wants a career, freedom, peace of mind, and control over her life.

In the past, marriage was a ticket to stability. Now, girls can earn their own money, buy their own land, and chase their dreams without waiting for a ring.

Many girls also fear the pressure that comes with marriage. Society expects them to cook, clean, raise children, and still smile through it all—often without much help.

Some have seen their mothers suffer in silence or give up their dreams to hold a home together. They do not want that life. They want partnership, not servanthood.

There is also the issue of toxic relationships. Many girls have been hurt, cheated on, disrespected, or abused.

In addition, with so many stories online about unhappy marriages, it is no surprise they are cautious. For some, being single feels safer and less stressful than being stuck in a bad marriage.

That said, not all girls are against marriage. Many still believe in love and family, but they want it on their own terms.

They want respect, equality, and shared responsibilities, not the traditional setup where the man leads and the woman follows.

Therefore, when a girl says she does not want to get married, it is not rebellion. It is reflection. It’s a decision based on what she has seen, felt, and learned.

Marriage is not the only path to happiness. Some girls are choosing themselves—and that should be okay. After all, what is better: being single and peaceful or married and miserable?